The Not-So-Sexy Infertility Adventures of a Girl in the Big Apple

Wednesday, November 30, 2011

And Then There Were Two

I got back to New York last night and was too tired to blog, so I have a lot to catch up on.

The most important update is that we got a call from the embryologist yesterday morning stating that two out of the three eggs had fertilized normally.  Hence we will be doing polar body testing on the embryos as opposed to CCS.

I can only pray that one of these embryos turns out to be normal and is healthy enough to implant, but I know the chances are slim.  It's going to be an agonizing month-long wait.

On a brighter note, H and I had a lovely time in Denver.  It was so nice having him there, and the weather was beautiful.  I picked him up from the airport on Saturday night and drove into Denver for dinner.  We had intended to go to Sushiden, which looked great, but it was totally packed.  So instead we went next door to a place called Ototo, and had a great meal there - I liked it better than Rjoja.  Both restaurants are on Pearl Street, which seems to be the food mecca in Denver.  I also found this great list of Denver restaurants - next time we go I am going to try some of these, they all look pretty good.

That evening at 1:30am we triggered (a day earlier than I thought), and the next morning we went into C.CRM for bloodwork.  We then went to Whole Foods and picked up a few supplies, and bought some sunglasses for H who had forgotten to bring his.  For anyone who has never been to Denver - bring sunglasses!  It's always pretty bright there.

We went to Izakaya Den for lunch, which is a sister restaurant of Sushiden and the only restaurant on the list open for lunch on Sunday.  Following that, we went to the Botanical Gardens and had a leisurely walk through the grounds.  Then we saw the new Martin Scorcese film "Hugo," which was beautifully filmed and well-acted but ultimately just an okay movie.  And we finished off the evening with dinner at Olivea, which is number 15 on the top 25 restaurants list (and was the only one open on Sunday evening).  It was quite tasty, although not quite as good as Ototo.  A full day!

We went in the next morning to C.CRM and met with the genetic counselor.  She explained to us that they would likely be recommending polar body testing given my low numbers of eggs.  I was disappointed to learn that the success rate for transfer of a single, normal, polar-body tested embryo is only 11%.  That's pretty low.  So it really speaks to the fact that it's important to have more than one if you want better odds.

My retrieval was pretty easy and pleasant.  Dr. Su.rrey performed the retrieval and was very nice - he told us afterwards that they had "hit the bullseye" in terms of getting 3 eggs, which was their target.  I had very little side effects afterwards, and aside from a mild soreness in my ovaries, I'm pretty much back to normal.

Oh, and I also need to thank MyFertilityBlog for giving me the Liebster Blog award!  It's the first one I've gotten and it means so much to me - so thank you!  I would turn around and give this award right back to you because I love your blog, and have found it incredibly helpful.  But since I know you've already gotten it a couple of times now, I'll send this on to some others!

Here are the five blogs I want to give this award to (I could name like 10 more, but I won't!):
1) TurtleMama at TortoiseBaby
2) Jen at Jelly's Bean
3) Jay at Stuck in a Baby Drought
4) Libby at Something Happened on the Way to Baby
5) Mo at Life and Love in the Petri Dish

All of these ladies have given so much help and support to others while sharing their own stories in an open and honest way.  I wish all of you the very best!

That's it for now.  I am expecting an update call tomorrow from C.CRM with what I PRAY is good news about our embryos.  Fingers crossed!!

Monday, November 28, 2011


So turns out that I ended up triggering one day earlier (Sat night) after all.   Thank goodness my husband flew in that day or else we would have been in trouble.   It ended up being a little hectic because we had to cram in all of our genetics appointment just before retrieval, but we got everything done.

They got 3 eggs - I obviously wanted more, but I guess it could have been worse.  I just have to pray for good quality...please please please?

My husband and I had a lovely day yesterday - I have a lot to write about but am still kinda groggy so will hold off until I get back to NYC tomorrow.  Fingers crossed for a great fertilization report!!

Saturday, November 26, 2011


I just want to say how grateful I am for all of the comments on my last post.  I was feeling down in the dumps and you ladies lifted me up, every one of you.

Elliej, thanks in particular for sharing your story - you gave me a glimmer of hope.  And your word verification ("bumpo") - here's hoping that's a sign!  Hopeandeffort, I tried to send you my email but not sure it went through?  If you post a comment with a mail address I'd be happy to send you my email - glad to provide any insight I can on choosing C.CRM vs NYC clinics.

I went in for my u/s this morning and we're still tracking 3 large ones and one smaller one.  The largest one is 20 - I am really hoping to get pushed out one more day to see if the smaller one (only a 10) can catch up, but it will depend on my bloodwork and the Dr.'s call.

My husband arrives in a few hours, which will make everything easier.  I was getting to the end of my rope here trying to entertain myself.

In the mean time, I am closing my eyes and saying a little prayer that I get pushed out one more day and my little follicle catches up!

Friday, November 25, 2011


I just got back from my u/s - still only four follicles, after 7 days of stims.  There are really only 3 that look viable, the other one is behind.  I may be triggering tomorrow, so there's almost no hope that any more are going to appear.

I am crushed.  I was really hoping for at least one or two more follicles/eggs than last time.  At most they will get 3 eggs, and it's very likely there will be less.  After all of this time and effort, and going to the best clinic money can buy, I'm getting the exact same result as before.  I just have to face it, this is the best my body is ever going to do.

I was going to go out and do some things today but the wind has totally been taken out of my sails.  I'm too depressed and numb to even cry.

I know that "it only takes one."  I know there are tons of stories about women who have that miraculous lone embryo that gets them pregnant.  But the basic fact is that this cycle is almost certainly not going to work.  I don't even feel like continuing, to be honest with you, but I know that I should just see it through.  We've gone this far.

I'm really, really sad.

Wednesday, November 23, 2011

Greetings from Denver

Hello all, I'm sitting here in my room at the Element Hotel writing Denver at last!

First off, I wanted to thank everyone from the bottom of my heart for your comments over the past couple of weeks - each and every one means so much to me, and I can't thank you all enough.

Brief recap of my time thus far:
I got to the airport yesterday afternoon, and of course my plane was overbooked.  Had a stressful couple of hours where I had to wait for people to voluntarily reschedule before I got a seat.  Thank goodness I eventually got on, although they put me in a middle seat on the most crowded, uncomfortably packed flight I've been in for a while.  I felt very crumpled and overheated by the time I finally deplaned.

On my way in from the airport I stopped off to get dinner at Rjoja, which is in downtown Denver and just a short detour on the way to Lone Tree.  I recommend it - has a nice atmosphere and an eclectic menu.  I had a very civilized dinner there and got to the hotel about 9pm.

Went to C.CRM this morning for my u/s and bloodwork.  They were extremely busy this morning, and everyone was rushing around like mad - probably trying to get things wrapped up before tomorrow.  They counted only four follicles at this point (two on the left, two on the right), ranging from 6 to 14.  I am disappointed there aren't more, but am trying to stay hopeful.  This is after 5 days of stims, so I have a little time yet to improve the situation.

When I got done, I did a bunch of shopping for supplies - went to Walgreens and bought a huge thing of lotion and some moisturizing shampoo/conditioner.  It is so dry here that my skin and hair feel thirsty all the time.  I also went to Whole Foods and stocked up on snacks and food supplies.  And then (don't laugh at me) I went to IKEA on a whim and bought a cheap ($10) paper lamp because the fluorescent lighting in the room here is depressing.  That's my only complaint about the hotel - otherwise it is clean and comfortable.  Once I get a lightbulb for this thing I'm hoping it'll cheer things up a bit...I'm a big believer in proper lighting!

I got back to the room late afternoon and waited for my phone call from C.CRM.  I wanted to get my full results with E2/LH, so I could compare them with my last couple of cycles.  Unfortunately like a dummy I had switched my ringer off and I missed the call.  That seriously bummed me out - I was not scheduled to go back to C.CRM until Friday so I would have had to wait 2 whole days to get another report.

Luckily I managed to get a hold of someone at the clinic and they were kind enough to read me my results - E2 is 468 (up from 147) and LH is 7.2, up from 4.3.   Of course I don't totally know what this means but I do know that you want your E2 to be rising and that they estimate one egg to equal about 200 of estrogen.  And in comparing these results to my last 2 cycles, it does look like my E2 is higher than either of the last two at this point (5 days of stims).  Not that that's saying much - I barely made any eggs at all in those cycles.

They have started me on Ganerilex as of tonight, and I'll be taking it every day until trigger.  I have been speaking sternly to my ovaries telling them not to ovulate early.

I'll be alone tomorrow on Thanksgiving, but am planning on doing a videochat with H and buying some ready-made turkey, stuffing, and mashed potatoes from Whole Foods.  I also have a couple of movies, so I should be all set.

I hope all of you have a wonderful Thanksgiving, filled with good food and lots of love.  Will update soon!

Monday, November 21, 2011

Denver Bound

Tomorrow I am flying to Denver - at long last!

I've been rather busy the last week or so, which has been good for me.  Haven't felt too anxious or nervous just yet, even with all of the injections & pills.  I was even pretty chilled out about missing today's call from C.CRM.  I was hoping to get details from my nurse about E2 and follicles, but since it was just a voicemail she only included my instructions.  I could have called back to ask, but then I said - what's the point?  I'll be out there soon enough.

However, the next ultrasound you can bet I'll be asking a lot of questions - that will be after 5 days of meds, and I am hoping for better progress than my last 2 cycles.  It's a LOW bar, so I am really hoping to beat it.

I feel pretty good physically.  I can feel a bit of pressure in my ovaries, and have been having those horrible Clomid hot flashes, particularly at night.  But other than that, I'm doing pretty well.  If it's anything like before, the Clomid emotional spikes will start to hit in a few days - and then we'll see how good I feel!

That's it for now.  I'll be dragging my computer out to Denver so I look forward to doing a lot of blog reading & writing in the next week.  I hope everyone has a happy & healthy Thanksgiving holiday!

Thursday, November 17, 2011

Ladies, Start Your Engines..

..because as of this afternoon, it's a go!  

I had my u/s and bloodwork this morning and all was well.  C.CRM cleared me to begin medications tomorrow, and I will be flying out to Denver on Tuesday for the remainder of the cycle.  Can't believe it's finally here!  I am so relieved to get past the first step.

It's going to be rather odd shooting up in a hotel room alone on Thanksgiving, but (sad as it is) I'd rather be doing that than anything else at this point.  I am so ready to get some answers - anything that brings me closer to that step is welcome right now.

The part I will absolutely hate is having to talk to my family and lie about where I am, but I just have to.  It's so much easier doing this without the weight of other people's hopes and expectations to contend with.  And I have all of you for support, which is why I'm so glad I have this blog.

I highly doubt any of you will be in Denver next week given that it's Thanksgiving, but if anyone is and feels like meeting up, drop me a line!  It would be nice to meet some of you and have some company while I wait to H to show up.  

That's it for now.  Cross your fingers for me, I need all the help I can get!

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

Waiting on Flo (Again)

She's kind of arrived, but not fully.  I would normally be willing to bet that tomorrow will be the day, but after last time (where she took five days of drips and drabs to fully arrive) I can't do that.

Not such a big deal except for planning flights.  I am trying to weigh how much more I will spend by waiting until just before I leave to book flights vs. getting charged penalties for changing your ticket if I book now.  Plus I won't really know until after my Day 2 u/s & bloodwork whether I am fully cleared to go or not - they could still find a cyst or something.   I guess I'll just wait until then before booking and suck up the extra cost.  Would be curious to know what other people did?

C.CRM did finally receive my questionable HSG report, and the good news is that I'm cleared to proceed, at least for the retrieval.  I wasn't sure if I still may have to do something prior to transfer, need to clarify that.

I'm really ready to get through this cycle and find out the results.  I seem to be doing better at managing my anxiety this time - that wedding trip really helped.  My expectations are also so much lower after what I've been through.  While I'm sure I will still be devastated if this doesn't work, I feel more prepared for bad news then I was last time.  However, once I start pumping all those meds into my body I'm sure I'll start to lose my sanity soon enough!

I've been trying to lose a couple of pounds in advance of this cycle so the weight gain doesn't get out of control, but I've just given up.  Too many things going on right now - vanity will have to come later!

Friday, November 11, 2011

Annoyed again

So I sent a follow up email to my nurse asking if the karyotype results for my husband had come back because I only received mine.  She told me they never performed a karyotype analysis on him.  I then asked her to check with Dr. S because my impression was that he wanted it done on both of us.

This morning I get an email from her stating that Dr. S confirmed that a karyotype should have been done on my husband.  This is so annoying, I don't know why this keeps happening!  The whole point of the karyotyping was to potentially save us from doing an IVF in the instance that either me or my husband had chromosomal abnormalities.  Now it's too late to do that - we have to go forward without it, which is really irritating me.

My husband, in his typical calm fashion, pointed out that the chances of there being a problem are slim, so it probably doesn't matter.  But to me that's beside the point - they should be getting these details right, without me catching these mistakes for them.

At this point I am going to keep things status quo, but once we get through this cycle I may request another nurse.  It's just one too many times where this has happened.  Argh.

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

I'm Back

Am now officially married in the eyes of both the state and our families.  We had a lovely, lovely trip and wedding, just what we hoped for.  Unfortunately I have to apologize in advance for not posting pictures - I'm having trouble getting everything downloaded for some reason.  Will get to it at some point, I promise!

In the mean time, I'm feeling really good - getting away and being completely absorbed in another set of activities did wonders for my mental/emotional state.  It's really clear to me now how bad it is sitting at home and obsessing about IF stuff....have to work on that.

The best part is that I'm now only a week or so away from kicking off this cycle.  Thank goodness it's finally here, not a moment too soon.  Hopefully I can hang onto this vacation glow as long as possible and keep the anxiety to a minimum.

Got a couple pieces of good news back from testing.  My FSH came in at 7.0 and my karyotype results are normal, so that's a relief.

I did a lot of catching up on blogs yesterday and today - seems like things are progressing pretty well in general.  A lot of people getting further along in their pregnancies and/or starting cycles after long waits.  I hope everyone gets the babies they deserve (including me!)

Am off now to eat some dinner - it's good to be back!